Most escort directories run by abusers. Gnoccaforum

with enough data and guidance they become apparent

one does not need to out them they out themselves utterly





An online petition calling on the Department of Justice to outlaw the “vile and exploitative” rating and reviews of women on escort websites has attracted more than 10,000 signatures.

Stop Escort Ireland's platform for punters to rate and review sex with women they rent





Morally reprehensible of the site and the men posting on it. The site owners need to be brought up on criminal charges, and all those who posted should equally be tracked down and prosecuted.


The people that use/supply this so called service ( not talking about the women involved who are likely living a life of hell) are not fit to be classed as human beings. Most wild animals wouldn't treat their own species in this way. Makes me want to vomit, embarrassment to the male of our species

It’s just plain disgusting and wrong.


sad and degrading


As someone who was once “reviewed” on this site, this is absolutely horrific.


I couldn't believe what I was reading when I went onto these 'reviews'.Thank you for commenting


This horrendous activity is horrifying and gut wrenching. Thank you again x


Unconscionable. Sickened.


A disgusting way to treat other human beings, as though they are less important than the punter. They should hang their heads in utter shame.


How is this even allowed to happen!



Absolutely UKpunting 

should be banned, as well as "Gnoccaforum", "Captain69", and "The erotic review" all of them got this ludicrous fame.

One day all nests of abusers will.

--- Just read what study says about them before reading what they has to say about anyone ---

These lost themselves in greed, violence, slander and corruption.

"-- they have all the rights all the control but no responsibility
it is like disaster when someone takes all the control but they dont want to be responsible for what they do, so you are the responsible for what they do and outcome and everything, then you have got real abuse occurring here.
-- it is like pathological, you could almost say evil in its ability to ruin people and get away with it, and not just get away with it but be seen as the innocent party, that's just another reality
-- the empath seems kind of crazy for bringing it up
-- the empath has to let go of all friends or family that have been co-opted and can't see whats going on as part of their recovery"

MUST WATCH:

How disgusting, women are not commodities, how many ended up in this situation through abuse and desperation? All of these so called men should be outed for the scum they are.

Vile, degrading and so sad that women are still treated like this

Disgusting...and I expect the punters aren't all that as well..wheres the rating site for them?


This is an appalling degradation of humanity. Completely wrong to rate women like they are an object to be bought and reviewed with a star rating. Shocking, degrading and shameful.

-- Reading these comments I felt like I still live among real people and not among cowardice NPD stalkers and their flying monkeys, for years...

The change.org petition is calling for an end to platforms which allow “punters to rate and review sex with women they rent”.

It requests that the department “introduce legislation which would prohibit the sex trade/escort website Escort Ireland from hosting and promoting the rating and and reviewing of women advertised on it”.

It also includes direct quotes from reviews left on escort websites including comments such as “she was largely unresponsive”, “she was disinterested”, “she was just looking at the ceiling in disgust” and “her body was that of a young teenage girl”.

The author of the petition told The Irish Times she hopes the signatures will raise awareness of the “vile and exploitative reviews” used to describe women online.

“I do not want to live in a world where women can be objectified and commoditised. Where our sexuality can be rated in stars. I do not want to live in a world where inequality and abuse is normalized or brushed under the carpet.”

https://www.irishtimes.com/news/crime-and-law/online-petition-calls-for-end-to-vile-rating-of-women-on-escort-sites-1.3237285

Sarah Benson, head of the Ruhama charity, which works with women affected by prostitution, says website review systems, which include a rating system on satisfaction and value for money, are not only “egregious in their content and attitudes” but are also “a mechanism in the ways women can be controlled in the future”.

She said: “Pimps and traffickers can read these reviews and make sure the women working for them show men a better time.


"SEEING FACES OF THESE UNWELL PEOPLE I THINK I SAW AND SURVIVED HELL"


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Legal Definition of insanity

insanity is not walking in strict jacket in hospital or locked up drugged with saliva dropping out of the mouth...  Lets obtain what this  really means:

unsoundness of mind or lack of the ability to understand that prevents one from having the mental capacity required by law to enter into a particular relationship, status, or transaction or that releases one from criminal or civil responsibility: asa disease, defect, or condition of the mind that renders one unable to understand the nature of a criminal act or the fact that it is wrong or to conform one's conduct to the requirements of the law being violated
b inability to understand and participate in legal proceedings brought against one incompetence
inability to understand the nature and consequences of one's acts 
in·san·i·ty
inˈsanədē/ extreme foolishness or irrationality.

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There are plenty by definition above normalized insanity is available for observation on most escort directories.

Normalizing - Normalizing is a tactic used to desensitize an individual to abusive, coercive or inappropriate behaviors. In essence, normalizing is the manipulation of another human being to get them to agree to, or accept something that is in conflict with social norms or with basic code of behavior.

It takes knowledge, experience, and a whole heap of courage and conviction to figure out a narcissist’s game and tear it to pieces.

It is not weakness that keeps people in these situations—it takes immense strength and willpower just to survive each day.

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The more time goes the more i am able to detach myself and see it from an angle of not involved person, the more i get terrified. 

Lie, smear campaigning, mocking, blocking, re-ordering, deleting,
cruelty, sadism beyond belief even to a pet that I had.




(Classic)

Seeing faces of these unwell people I think i saw and survived hell.

From week one to the last month of my "independent" career they made me feel to be obliged to deliver extra time and attention, that the only freedom I saw that was available for the abusers.
In "punter-escort" community thugs and pimps covered up as "punters" are free to do what they want and have freedom to control and abuse, if I don't subscribe to their demands, or just because they have urge to hurt and deprive you from response and support. 

cra·zy ˈkrāzē/
informal
adjective
  1. 1.
    mentally deranged, especially as manifested in a wild or aggressive way.

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Sweeping the reality of narcissism away serves to protect those who are narcissistic and thus allows them to continue their perpetual cycles of abuse. 

There is a great difference between having a few traits and triggers that are similar to those categorized as narcissists and someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Regardless of how much anyone thinks they know, the only ones who actually know what it is like are the people currently walking through narcissism hell and those who have already walked through it. No one else can possibly accurately judge what it’s like.

~https://www.elephantjournal.com/2017/07/why-those-who-havent-visited-narcissism-hell-should-remain-silent/

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There is no single profile for a

stalker.


When the narcs stalk and harass you they are attempting to take back the control that they know they no longer have.

Normal person will never play these kind of mental mind games.

Narcissists have no sense of guilt or remorse for their actions – THEY JUST DO NOT CARE! There is NO WAY you can shame them into accepting responsibility for their mindless and thoughtless games or their manipulative approach to other people. 

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Forgiving narcissistic behavior and moving on helps realizing that how weak, needy one should be to settle for such a way of life or success or just self satisfaction. Narcissists or other cluster B personality disordered types have to cheat, smear, falsify, back bite, hurt another human being for survival which by default makes them be losers from the start




Covert bullying — whether by cyber-bullying, stalking, smear campaigning, or intimidating by overtly harassing — is the specialty of the narcissistic person and all their Flying Monkey enabling posse.

"The cluster B personality disorder Narcissists, Borderline, Psychopathy and so on are marked by codependent neurotic need to feed off reaction of other people, force reaction in order to survive in a figurative broken delusional psychotic schizophrenic space in which true personality disordered individuals exist.." more to watch below:



As soon as a Narcissist begins to perceive that you have a voice of your own, individuality, and a right to existence, the trouble starts right then and there. This is the point of no return because there is no possibility of two way communication with them. The more you push your individualism forward the more resistance from the Narcissist to manage you down and control you. Their façade is impenetrable and has to be or they would self-destruct if people knew the truth that they are basically con artists, abusive, and dangerous if cornered.

Ultimately, virtually emotionless themselves and unable to functionally experience pure joy and happiness without an undercurrent of taking sadistic pleasure in stealing, conning, lying, or conniving, emotional predators like narcissistic people or those who have Cluster B personality disorders are getting off almost exclusively because they feel almighty powerful when they con other people.

And despite what they claim, the longer the smear campaigning continues without validation of the truth, the more emotionally attached the abuser is to remain playing an active part in the lives of their victims.


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While self-stroking their own ego by manipulating other people’s relationships and emotions, they get off on creating artificially inspired triangulation. Then, while they “one up” by lying about one while duping another, they feel powerful and successful.


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Most narcissists do not believe that they need therapy, even in the face of significant substance-related problems. A narcissist’s attitude towards treatment is competitive, hostile and aggressive. They will devalue and discard both the treatment and the medical advises.

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In addition, alcoholism and its psychological impact often cause narcissistic traits.
What else can you expect from a drink that destroys the brain?

How NPD Leads to Alcoholism

NPD and alcoholism often co-occur. Alcoholism can quickly make people self-centered, i.e. no longer concerned with the needs of others and satisfying their own needs even if it burdens others. 

http://www.alcoholicsoccermom.com/how-does-narcissism-relate-to-alcohol-addiction

Lies and deceit are as natural to the Narcissist’s world as is breathing. A Narcissist has the amazing ability with their ‘shrewd deception’ to make EVERYONE believe their lies EVEN when they fly right in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary. Take the position that everything they say to you is a lie and or based on a lie, or as my friend once told me “if they are breathing they are lying!”

https://afternarcissisticabuse.wordpress.com/2016/06/16/you-cant-engage-in-reality-with-a-narcissist-because-they-lack-a-conscience-morals-empathy-and-emotions-so-do-not-expect-to-be-heard-yet-alone-find-common-ground-or-any-sort-of/

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Symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

(I can not diagnose but definitely can test)

In order for a person to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) they must meet five or more of the following symptoms:

  • Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
  • Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
  • Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
  • Requires excessive admiration
  • Has a very strong sense of entitlement, e.g., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
  • Is exploitative of others, e.g., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
  • Lacks empathy, e.g., is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
  • Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
  • Regularly shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes

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To quit using mean tactics takes a lot of inner resources like courage, strength, stamina, consider another which narcissists do not have. Npd's only can give what they have and made from like: false, delusion, misery, immaturity, shallowness, fear, apathy and  so on.


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They will peak on you just because you did a lot of reading and studying, what i had to do for self protection.

"Narcissist will literally translate your strengths into flaws.
Being “intelligent and driven,” into “know-it-all” or a “a smartass.
They will degrade, minimize, and ignore anything what you accomplished







From "ego" hence narrow perspective they are the winners, super strong, cleaver, and the most successful people, because they don't care, can suck up to the vein of another and feel no shame.

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Narcissists never were known for being good at seeing bigger, realistic picture even though history and their own mirror shows it over and over. 


They try to adapt themselves in any means to the environment or view that is unhealthy and do anything what takes to crawl themselves up or provide a comfort zone and to all that and everything else they gain as well incurable mental illness for the rest of their life, trapped in the cycle where is no truth and no real victory.

Sad indeed.




Maybe Narcissists think that sneaking up on their high horses were worth loosing it,
or maybe they thought there is no consequences for their choices and behavior?

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Seeing rational people in them and trust is a huge mistake and can cost dearly. 

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The Narcissism Mystique: Fictions

Here are some misconceptions about Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) that are not just ignorant but also dangerously false:

False: The person with NPD loves himself.
False: Having NPD means you’re smart, good-looking, and/or successful.
False: Having NPD makes your life a series of intoxicating head games.
False: The narcissist can be cured by the right “empath” lover.
False: Narcissists are great lovers.
False: My narcissist BF/GF will change for me.
False: People with NPD have superior powers.
False: The narcissist can change if she wants to.
False: Most therapists/psychologists understand narcissism.
False: Underneath it all narcissists really do love their children.
False: Narcissists are obvious to spot.
False: If I leave my narcissist spouse, the legal system will protect my kids and me.
False: Narcissists are monsters.
False: If I make myself vulnerable, my narcissist partner/parent/friend will trust me and open up.
False: Narcissists will respond to “reason.”

Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Facts

Here are some stark facts about NPD that everyone should know:

Fact: The serious narcissist has a pathological personality disorder.
Fact: NPD is a devastating mental condition. 
Fact: The narcissist is ruled by self-hatred, self-doubt, and self-shame but hides those feelings from himself and others at all cost.
Fact: People with NPD have little to no empathy for anyone at all, including their kids, partner/spouse, and “friends.”
Fact: The narcissist will do whatever it takes to manipulate her environment to convince herself that she is the omnipotent master, superior to others and entitled to more.
Fact: The narcissist continuously attempts to bolster himself at the ruthless expense of others.
Fact: The narcissist experienced formative invalidation when young.
Fact: People with NPD are terrified of rejection.
Fact: Sadistic narcissists enjoy causing suffering and have zero remorse.
Fact: Covert narcissists are less obvious than extroverted ones and can be extremely cunning about hiding their true nature.
Fact: Most therapists/psychologists do not understand NPD and its toxic effects within relationships and families.
Fact: The person with NPD will study you and exploit your needs/desires/weaknesses.
Fact: It is always a mistake to make yourself vulnerable to a narcissist.
Fact: Narcissists behave monstrously but are disturbed people, not monsters.
Fact: Getting in deep with a narcissist and, worse, having children with one, will be your biggest regret.

Julie L. Hall, Contributor
Roving writer, author of The Narcissist Family Files Blog

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There are several reasons victims of covert psychological violence do not get the justice and protection they deserve:

While the abuser appears to be calm, the victim that he or she has psychologically abused and violated over a period of time may appear emotional, erratic or unhinged due to the effects of trauma.

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Society believes in the myth of “mutual abuse” and the idea that there is “two sides to every story.”

Time and time again, we are fed the myth that survivors somehow contributed to the abuse or that the abusive behavior was somehow part of a dysfunctional relationship where both parties were to blame.

Let’s get this straight: abuse arises from a power imbalance where the abuser is able to diminish the victim’s sense of self-worth, subjecting them to name-calling, stonewalling, put-downs, sabotage and control for a period of time. A victim’s eventual reactions to these tactics, while they can be maladaptive, should never be seen as “mutual abuse” .

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Research indicates that narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths have the cognitive empathy to assess the weaknesses and emotional vulnerabilities of their victims, but that they are unhindered by the affective empathy that would enable them to feel remorse for the way their cruel actions affect others. This is what makes them even more convincing and ultimately, more ruthlessly successful in persuading others than their empathic victims.

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When a victim finally “reacts” maladaptively to chronic abuse, the abuser then uses those incidents against the victim, using it to “prove” the victim’s “instability” to the outside world. What is missing from the picture that society sees on the surface are the years of abuse that the victim endured in silent terror.

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Understanding the nature of these toxic interactions and how they affect us has an enormous impact on our ability to engage in self-care. I personally know how devastating this type of abuse can be, especially when survivors are not able to speak of their experiences.

by Shahida Arabi

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Fearful people don't have trust.
Fearful people see each other as competitors
Fearful people don't want to share, everything is only about them.

All the dysfunctions in our society are there only because that how fearful people act.


And as before life has ways turning it around, transform, liberate once again.

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and knowledge.




Can a narcissist be cured?

"No. And the reason comes from the research part. The knowledge is missing. There are no books about curing NPD, and no medicine available.

Psychologists and psychiatrists cannot cure NPD because they have not been taught how to do it. They do not know where the problem lies, how it works, and what they have to to to fix it, if that is even possible, or at least block the problems it causes."

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It takes a narcissist get motivated to be cured, first to understand what he/she misses if they don't, -- well, they miss the part of the brain that is responsible for their happiness at very least.

Extremely rare cases who understood it and try, but most narcissists are still too busy chasing in circles their narcissistic supply.

Watched hundreds of videos and hundreds of articles I read for the last three years and always heard the same -- there is no cure for Cluster B type.

But once, only one time I heard a researcher- scientist say there is. There is a cure that can rewire their brain to the healthy state back

and information presented was quite impressive.

I will keep it to myself, anyway they can always find out if they commit themselves to the proper investigation.


An extremely rare cases among NPD type who are aware of their problem and stepped on healing path by telling the truth and exposing themselves. 
The moment such decision made by some of them, showed quite strong personality features developing like courage, compassion, mindfulness which are signs of brain evolution taking place once one decided to stop BS around.

In conclusion their cure, most narcissists are running from all their life is exposing the truth about themselves

Of course those who they have hurt are not going to sit there and wait when they are ready to get it, or anyhow we depend on it

But out of good nature one must wish them to get well
soon



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AN EMAIL Hey *|FNAME|,

You might be surprised to hear that I can get mighty angry sometimes.

Maybe you do too. That's normal when you're emotionally abused, especially by a narcissist.

Anger is almost impossible to avoid when you deal with a narcissist.

For some reason, they're so good at funneling their anger onto you so you live as an angry person. Somehow, they transform their anger into your anger.

This is so they don't have to deal with their own anger and can point at you as being the angry one. Strange I know, but that's how it works.

Narcissists aren't allowed to feel angry because they're taught it would make them a bad person, so they want you to deal with their anger and accept blame for it.

Then they feel better because they can pretend they aren't the furious people that they really are.

The irony of course is they're extremely angry most or all of the time, and dumping it onto you is the only way for them to relieve it. They wouldn't do it if they weren't really angry.

Also, being angry doesn't make you bad. It's okay to feel angry.

Even rage can be a very useful tool. It gives you perspective if you use it right and don't act on it.

They feel rage all of the time (probably every moment), but they don't accept it, they channel it onto you.

And it's when you let it take over your mind and start relating to everyone in an angry way... then you really have a problem because everything makes you angry, and it's not even your anger.

I guess my advice is: anger isn't really a bad thing, even though it can make you feel really bad.

It's how you handle it, and when necessary, solve the problem causing it.

In my experience, being around a narcissist makes you very frustrated and angry, and there's not much you can do but recognize it.

You can't make them accept it, they never will.

Most anger fades after you get away from them, but a lot of it will linger on through their negative opinions of everything.

You're the only moving part in all of this. The narcissist doesn't matter, they're going to do the same thing for as long as they live. You're the only one who can change it with your actions.

I'm going to show you how narcissists control your mind and perceptions of things without you knowing it. Once you see how they do it you'll be able to slowly get them out of your head so you can make decisions without doubting yourself.

.....................................

Have a wonderful day and I'll talk to you then,